The new age of pageantry training… Part 2
Continuing their conversation, Maddison Lynn and Miss Universe 2005 Natalie Glebova impart their knowledge of what it takes to compete and succeed on a national or international stage. The following dialogue expands upon the You Be The Judge feature as seen in the Spring/Summer edition of Pageantry magazine and PageantryDigital.
PM: How do you stay mentally tough in a world that is so full of judgment?
NG: Upon hearing I looked too young to compete at Miss Universe and I was better suited for the “Teen” category, I took that statement and reframed it to be a compliment, I “looked young.” Who doesn’t want to look young? In another instance, when someone made a comment that if I couldn’t win Miss Universe Canada on my first try, and since I placed as a 2nd runner up in a small international pageant in Colombia (Miss Maja Mundial), how could I possibly have a shot at Miss Universe? This didn’t sway me at all because I looked at my progress rather than the outcome. So, if I was 3rd runner up in Miss Universe Canada and 2nd runner up in Miss Maja, by all signs I was moving in the right direction, and the worst outcome I had in my mind was being 1st runner up in Miss Universe. Not a bad result to hope for!
If you want to win the mental game, get good at finding reasons to talk yourself up, focusing on why you can win. Don’t focus on your shortcomings or things you cannot change. Become the Queen of Reframing! Always watch what your mind is saying as well, that’s where self-awareness (the first pillar of self-love) comes into play.
ML: I’d like to start off and say it has been a journey to get to where I am today, and I am still climbing. I think people sometimes forget to realize there are a thousand stories behind every experience. Because we live in such a social media driven society, real life understanding, and authenticity is easily lost now more than ever. I try my best to always keep it alive! We need it! Especially for our younger generations.
The world can be a cruel place and it takes practice to cancel out the hate and jealousy. When that type of energy enters your aura, it can really destroy you if you don’t know how to handle it. Like you said, bullying is never ok, but the sad truth is, it’s not avoidable. So how do I handle it? Practice! Practice! Practice!
When I first started to learn the craft of reframing, it was harder than I expected. I really had to learn how to control my thoughts. Once you change your thoughts, you change your life. What you believe, you become.
I think we all want to live a fulfilling life, and change the world with the gifts we’ve been blessed with. Natalie, I remember something very important you taught me when I was taking your “Win in Love” Course. You said, “You are in control of who you want to be. If you don’t love yourself, who will?” This is where the whole “I am” affirmations started to play a huge role in my life. Every morning when I wake up, I say to myself: I AM limitless, I AM not afraid of going after my dreams, I AM confident in who I am, I AM forgiving of myself and others.
NG: Once you have the right affirmations, the ones which make you feel empowered and loved, you can do several things to help them get into your subconscious mind and get your neural pathways to connect to the new way of thinking. One of the ways is to create a beautiful artwork design of your “I Am” statements. It becomes a mirror of your “ideal self” you can look at as much as possible and repeat internally or out loud. The other way is to instill these new beliefs while your brain is in the theta state of deep relaxation/meditation, as this is a powerful way to reprogram your subconscious mind.
To read the rest of the You Be The Judge feature… Click Here